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4D DAILY NEWS FORTRANSFERSTUDENTS FOR TRANSFER STUDENTS $6,000 GUARANTEEDACADEMICSCHOLARSHIPSUPTO MTSU.EDU/APPLYNOW Findahomethat fitsyourfamily inaneighborhood Findahomethat fitsyourfamily inaneighborhood in a neighborhood that fits your life. inaneighborhood that fits your life. dnj.com/Homes Your dreamhomeshouldcome withadreamneighborhood. providesexclusivedetailsonneighborhoods, lifestylesandareaamenitieswitheverylisting. lifestyles Dear Abby: On July 13, you responded to someone asking whether friends should tell friends anonymously that their spouse is cheating.

You advised that if someone is not willing to include their name, they should mind their own business. One of my dear friends from church get a letter or a phone call during her marriage to her husband, who cheated on her constantly. What she did get was HIV-positive status, later full-blown AIDS and then death. Her husband was positive when she became pregnant, and her son was also born positive. Ibelieve that if someone knew and had told her, she might have been able to use protection.

sure she have minded the person not revealing his or her name as much as she minded being blindsided by her husband concealing his illness. Personally, want to know if I were living a daily life based on lies and deception. Had someone spoken up, perhaps my friend would still be alive. in California Dear Mimi: Please accept my sympathy for the loss of your friend. And thank you for sharing your compelling story.

Other readers responded to that letter with equal passion. Read on for a sample: Dear Abby: My ex-husband was a cheater who ended up his STD with me. I would have been eternally grateful to anyone who stepped up and told me about the affairs. Unlike the wives you referenced in your answer, I was in a position to deal with it. I dealt with it as soon as I knew, but if someone had disclosed it to me earlier, perhaps I have experienced the humiliation of an STD, or the lies of a spouse telling me how much he loved me while sleeping around behind my back.

The truth is always the best policy. in Utah Dear Abby: I feel the best way to save a marriage involving a cheating spouse is to directly address it with the cheater. This allows the person to to the spouse. When the unsuspecting spouse hears it from another source, like a double blow everyone else knows but the one being cheated on. The marriages I have seen survive are those in which the cheater is able to confess to the infidelity, own up to the indiscretions and promise not to interact with the other offender.

From experience, I know it is not an easy road back, but worth every step. in Spokane Dear Abby: Two close friends of mine married young. They were immature and struggled to find their footing in the relationship. During the first year, unbeknownst to each other, they both had one-night stands, which they confided to me separately. I believed that imparting that information to anyone would only hurt people for no purpose, so I kept it to myself.

glad I did. They wound up growing as individuals and as a couple, and they have been happily married for 20 years. I have no doubt that if I had spilled the beans, it would have promptly ended the union. convinced that were I to do it now, it would serve only to create unnecessary pain where there is joy. Tessie Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.

Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. Undiscovered infidelity results in death from AIDS Abigail Van Buren DEAR ABBY Long Hunter State Park includes 2,600 pristine acres along 30 miles of shoreline in both Davidson and Rutherford counties. The area became a state park in 1974 and has four segments, including Couchville (center), Grove (north), Bryant Grove (south) and Sellars Farm (Wilson County). The site was added to the National Register of Historic Places in 1972.

The Couchville Lake Arboretum Trail of two miles is a tremendous walk encircling Couchville Lake. Amid 42 species of trees on this route, one can witness a wild turkey, blue heron, osprey, bald eagle or an American mink. The wildflowers include species such as green dragon and mistflower. The path made history in 2008 as the first state- certified arboretum in a Tennessee State Park. What captivates me is the deep Native American (Paleo) history of 12,000 years ago witnessed in antiquity on the grounds of the park.

In the late 18th century, long hunters were trading with Indians in a profitable exchange. Some long hunters could earn a lofty $1,600 within a season. The name of the park is derived from the long hunters of the 1760s who rienced an extended length of time in the This small band of hunters (also known as surveyors) remained for six to 18 months and returned to Virginia with animal furs. Prominent hunters include Col. James Smith, James Knox, Kasper Mansker, Abraham Bledsoe and Uriah Stone.

The bountiful tales forged a great interest redolent of a better life for prospective settlers. The park parameters were formed in 1968 by the impoundment of Stones River (originally Fish Creek), which was dammed for flood control and hy- droelectric power. This basin carries a history of Native Americans, including Creek, Chickasaw, Shawnee and Cherokees. Sellars Farm is an archaeological area comprised of an olden historical settlement dating 900-1500 AD. Flint tools, Clovis points and platform mounds have been discovered in this Mississippian village of the Paleo Indians.

They lived among interesting rock outcroppings that one can view firsthand today. In 1939, four intricately-carved sandstone statues were unearthed by farmer Clyde Sellars and revealed the sheer skill of the Indians. These pre-historic gems were carvings of ancestors and are now displayed at the McClung Museum in Knoxville. Gov. Bill Haslam recently signed into law designating an 18-inch male statue, official artifact.

Sandy was also featured on a U.S. postage stamp. The Paleo Indians harvested corn and were self-sufficient, as they lived on Spring Creek that flows into the present-day Cumberland River. There were approximately 100 small mounds on this expanse in the park, and they were primarily utilized to bury valuables. Archeologists have excavated pottery, pipes and eating utensils at this site.

The Indians also had a palisade, a wooden fence surrounding the village, to protect them against attack. When a secondary tribe of Cherokees abandoned claim on Stones River in 1805, settlers poured into our region. Sherrod Bryant (1820), a wealthy African-American, and the Couch family were two of the early inhabitants of this area and created a sensation in this untamed land. The Couch claim retained a store and river crossing north of Bryant Grove. By 1968, Percy Priest Dam was constructed, forming Couchville Lake within the park.

The five-mile Volunteer Trail connects Couchville and the panoramic Bakers Grove. Jones Mill Trail in Bryant Grove is directed to the apex of Bald Knob and is a beautiful view of a Percy Priest Lake, created from the impoundment of Stones River. Long Hunter Park is a jewel to be explored over time. I have been present at dusk to view deer running wild among the cedar glades and shorebirds flying low. As I quietly absorb the sunset simmering in a myriad of hues over Percy Priest Lake, I know I am home.

This sacred protected property is a bonus to all residents of Rutherford County and is a cherished preserve for a new millennial. Contact Susan Harber at susanhar- Long Hunter Park premium asset to our county SUSAN HARBER FOR THE DAILY NEWS JOURNAL SUSAN HARBER FOR THE DAILY NEWS JOURNAL An old property stone wall is visible on the 11-mile Volunteer Trail off Hobson Pike..